Normalising the aspects of sex we’ve been shamed for for too long.
Today I came across an article called “10 embarrassing things that happen during sex- and how to fix them”. I couldn’t believe my eyes. This article mentions some things that – okay, can be arguably embarrassing for some people sometimes – but they cannot be fixed, and we shouldn’t feel like we have to fix them. They are completely normal, and I refuse to feel ashamed or “fix”- something as natural as the act of having sex itself.
These are some things that inevitably happen during sex and that you should NOT be trying to fix because they are COMPLETELY NORMAL:
Queefing
AKA, vagina farts. I know it can be loud and we can all feel embarrassed when that happens, especially if it is your first time or if you are having sex with someone you are not too comfortable with. But why should we feel shame of something we can’t control? It’s stupid but sadly inevitable to feel that way. So, I think it’s about time we normalize it, shall we? At the end of the day, it’s literally just a bit of air.
Eating Hair
Yes, it can happen when someone goes down on you sometimes. Yes, it’s normal. No, you should not be trying to “fix it”. If you are willing to wax or shave down there, do it because you want to and because you feel like it, not because the person who is going down on you is bothered by a hair inside their mouth. And if they’re that bothered, maybe it’s time to find somebody who doesn’t care. How is that “embarrassing”, again?
Not Being Able to Orgasm
This should be self-explanatory, really. It is very common to not orgasm during sex, especially for women engaging in heterosexual sex (the orgasm gap is very real). It is also common for many women to fake their orgasms either because they don’t want to be embarrassed, or because they don’t want to make their partner feel that way. As common as it is to fake it, no one should feel like they have to! Not being able to orgasm is natural, common, and nothing to be embarrassed about.
