Ever felt like you want to poke someone’s eyes out because your partner liked their insta pic? Me too.
Ah, jealousy, the rollercoaster of love and follower frenzies. Whether is your partner’s banter with his school friend or just someone they came in contact with through mutual friends, we all experience it at some point in our lives, whether we like it or not.
What is Jealousy?
Jealousy is that sneaky emotion that creeps on us when we are afraid of loosing someone or a relationship that is very important to us. It feels like a threat, whether real or imagined, to a relationship we value, making us question our worthiness and obsess over instagram followers.
Now, jealousy is very common and normal, and I think I can speak for a lot of people when I say that we’ve all been jealous at some point. I surely did. It’s like a jalapeño, a little kick that can add excitement to the dish, in this case your relationship. I mean, think of the satisfaction that comes with when your partner is a bit territorial. Suddenly, it’s very hot in here.
However, too much can leave you gasping for air and regretting your life choices. So, finding a balance is very important but it can also be very challenging, especially when it comes between trust and insecurity.
My lovely friend Caragh Taylor, shared her experience with me on how she’s dealing with jealousy. Caragh’s been in a relationship for two years with her Scouse lover boy Louis, and explained how when they first started dating, her jealousy and overthinking was over the roof.
She said: “If he wouldn’t reply for like a minute I would get really stressed and anxious.
“Now, when I’m jealous I would just listen to Everyday by Asap Rocky or listen to my bad bitch playlist, remind myself that I’m fit and that it doesn’t matter what the other girls look like because they can’t compare to me.”
Caragh explained how most of her jealousy comes from her overthinking. Read our article on dating as an over-thinker.
She said: “Most of the time, I think to myself that there’s no need to worry, but then I’m thinking what if there is?
“I personally don’t trust boys, so when I hear things about other girls experiences I put myself in their position and worry what if this will happen to me?”
How to deal with jealousy in a relationship?
When it comes to jealousy, it’s important to address it before it gets out of hand.
Caragh explained how trusting you partner is crucial when dealing with jealousy, and communicating your feelings in a healthy way will save you from lots of arguments.
She said: “It gets to the point where you really trust them or you really need to talk about it.
“My advice will be to make sure you tell your partner about it when you are jealous or you are overthinking.
“Admit that you are jealous, communicate your feelings and how it makes you feel, because believe it or not, they can’t read your mind, and neither can you, so don’t think of the worse.”
So, Floozies, if you are experiencing jealousy you are not alone. We’ve all been there, so just remember Caragh’s advice to trust your partner and communicate your feelings with them. Keeping it in will just make it last longer, whereas admitting it, even though it’s hard at first, will ease your worries and solve the problem.
Edited By Elena Baeza Ruso