Rebecca Dakin unveils Reality vs Myths in porn

by | May 29, 2023 | Let's talk about Sex

Lights, camera, action! Just not the type of action you’ll want to watch with your parents.

Let’s be real, we’ve all watched porn and indulged in a little guilty pleasure or two, whether out of curiosity or to get the job done. And since we are digging up the graves, I think I speak for everyone when I say that we all got our earliest sexual information from it.

Especially if we haven’t got much sex education growing up or been too awkward to ask our parents. So, just like any other inexperienced and curious horny teenager, porn was always there ready to answer our many questions about the bees and the birds.

Read our article on having the sex talk with your parents.

But truth be told, what we see on screen is about as real as tooth fairy. So, let’s dive into the realm of porn, and talk about the truth behind those jaw dropping scenes.

What is porn?

From mind-bending positions that require the flexibility of a yoga guru, to on-set chemistry and mind blowing orgasms that make you wonder if they are truly genuine passion or just impressive acting skills, pornography has become a topic of whispered conversations, hushed giggles and startling myths.

Throughout the years, the world of adult entertainment has become more and more famous. Pornhub, in particular, has become the most popular porn site online, with a total of 33.5 billion visits over the course of 2018 and 10.2 billion monthly visits as of November 2022.

READ: The Best Ethical Porn Sites.

While porn can be educational, it can also create certain myths and expectations about what sex should look and feel like, hiding the unfiltered truth, such as having negative impacts on self esteem and confidence by bringing up insecurities.

Rebecca Dakin, aka ‘The British Sexpert’, a relationship, sex and dating counsellor explained how due to porn, people have unrealistic expectations regarding how sex should feel like or what genitals should look like.

She said: ‘A lot of people learn from porn, which is not sex, in fact it’s not even real, it’s just a performance.

‘This eventually affects people as they might develop insecurities about their own bodies or experience in general, impacting their sexual interactions with other people.’

What is the unfiltered truth about porn?

When we are watching porn, we are exposed to various stereotypes. From big boobs, hairless bodies and big penises, to mind-blowing orgasms and long lasting sex, porn has created a lot of myths and expectations.

So, when we are having sex, those steamy scenes that we watched on porn, flash though our minds and we can’t help but compare it to what we watched, and wonder if our bodies measure up to the pornographic ideals. When in reality, the truth is far from it.

You’ll think that your first time having sex will last like 30 min according to porn, when in fact it might just be a one pump case. Just because porn shows sex as this long lasting experience full of orgasms, it doesn’t mean it’s real. And don’t get me started on the ideal body.

I mean, we all come in different shapes and sizes, and thats what makes us unique. There is no ‘perfect’ body or ideal manhood that porn portrays there to be.

Common Myths and Truths

It’s important to remember that porn is merely an act with people paid to perform it. Here are some common myths and truths about porn you would have never thought they were myths.

Every person is hairlessMyth

Most persons in pornography shave daily to get that silky smooth look, but they still have body hair. Unless you shave all the time or get a laser (which is very expensive btw), you will have hair growing, which is normal.

Men are always hard – Myth

Most men in the adult industry take pills to stay erected all the time.

Women are always wetMyth

‘You are so wet’ he says arrogantly. Little does he know that’s just discharge. Just like men are not always hard, so are womens’ vaginas not always wet. That’s not how it works, it’s just what porn wants us to believe. Most of the time, women in porn use lube.

Using spit as lubeMyth

Adult film actors actually use a variety of lubes, they just apply it off camera.

Penetration is all women need to orgasmsMyth

A lot of women can’t orgasm from penetration alone, so most of the time porn actors are just be faking it.

So, loves. There you have it, porn reality vs myths. Remember, porn is just a performance, so be kind to your bodies. Most of the things we watch are not real but just an act.

Edited by Audrey Chow

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